For couples who just received an infertility diagnosis, talking to others about their situation can seem like a giant hurdle. Even more so when the people they talk to are quick to say things like “don’t worry about it” and “Just relax”.

 One in eight couples will experience infertility, but couples still feel reservations about letting others in on this personal part of their life. We have put together a few of the best tips to keep in mind when talking to family or friends who are facing infertility.

  • Take the issue seriously – The stress and emotional pain that can come from infertility is no joke. Minimizing their experience with quick and easy responses like “Why don’t you adopt” or “A baby will come at the right time” can do more damage than good to your relationship, and will leave them feeling like their feelings are not valid.
  • Let them talk and ask supportive questions – Often a listening ear and is more helpful than recommendations for a way to fix the problem. Most couples facing infertility either have done their own research or aren’t emotionally ready to start looking for other options. Active listening and empathy go a long way.
  • Reach out just to say that you care – Many couples struggle with the long term stress and can feel like they are a burden to ‘still’ be hurting after such a long journey. While they may have reached out and gotten more support, in the beginning, it can be refreshing to get a card or text saying you are still thinking about them no matter how long they have been trying to build their family.
  • Plan time out together that won’t be related to children – Whether that is a girl’s/guy’s night out, lunch, or something active, it is always nice to do something not related to children or family building. It is one of the best ways you may be able to help them recharge and not think about it too much. They will thank you for it.
  • Support their decisions, even if it is not your own – Not every family building option would be the right decision for your own family, and the same goes for them. While you may have recommendations and ideas, the best thing you can do is ask how you can support their current decision and let them come to their own conclusions when it is time.

While nothing is an easy fix to the pain of infertility, supportive friends and family can make a significant difference in the journey. Watch the  webinar below for more ideas.

 

 

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